Dr Carmen Harra, American author of Committed: Finding Love and Loyalty Through the Seven Archetypes, explained that many people who exhibit ‘conceited’ qualities do not have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She told they can be ‘individuals with an overinflated but still manageable sense of self.’
The expert continued: ‘One of the main characteristics that distinguish high self-esteem from narcissism is how one treats others.
‘It is one thing to believe in yourself, know your worth, and set solid standards, and an entirely different thing to be so self-consumed that it negatively affects your relationships with those around you.
‘Society encourages us to love ourselves. This is crucial to a happy and healthy life. But how much self-confidence is too much?’.
Meanwhile she also revealed the 12 questions you should ask yourself if you want to determine if you’re narcissistic.
Scroll down to start the test and then see the answers below.
1. I am proud of myself because:
A. I am strong, motivated, and kind.
B. I am extraordinary, unique, and irreplaceable.
2. I deserve to be loved because:
A. It is my birthright.
B. There’s something in me that no one else has.
3. The more important element in a relationship is:
A. to be appreciated.
B. to have control.
4. My favourite part about posting on social media is:
A. sharing my beliefs, projects, and life in general with others; receiving responses from people I know and care about.
B. sharing my possessions, good looks, and glamorous life with others; receiving praise from a large number of people I don’t know.
5. When I enter a crowded room, I feel:
A. like I fit in; even though I think I look good, I’m just another person there.
B. like I stand out; I am the person there.
6. I have regarded myself as superior to others because I was richer, smarter, luckier, or more attractive than them:
7. If a friend, family member, or co-worker does something wrong to me, I am most likely to respond by:
A. trying to work it out; they should be given the chance to explain.
B. blocking them; I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life.
8. The reason my friends are in my life is because:
A. We share a supportive relationship as equals.
B. They look up to me or think they can benefit from me in some way.
9. My former love relationships didn’t work out because:
A. My ex and I were both wrong or we were incompatible.
B. My ex was wrong and was incompatible with me.
10. The words that best describe me are:
A. valuable and talented.
B. special and important.
11. If someone hurts someone else, that person deserves to feel:
A. forgiveness if they’re sorry.
B. the same pain they inflicted.
12. Complete this sentence. ‘People have treated me ____ throughout my life; I feel ____.’
A. fairly / like a winner
B. unfairly / like a victim
Did you answer mostly As or Bs? Psychologist reveals what that means.
Dr Carmen said: If you answered mostly A’s, your level of self-esteem is probably within healthy limits.
You balance showing consideration for yourself and consideration for others, but you also don’t allow others to disrupt your peace of mind or interrupt your well-being.
You set boundaries and maintain your dignity intact while also keeping your ego in check.
If you answered mostly B’s, your degree of self-pride may exceed healthy bounds.
You might fail to consider the needs and desires of others, which can harm your relationships or hinder you from fully bonding with another person.
You can be under false the impression that people are out to hurt you or that you’re better than them.
Maintaining a strong sense of self-worth can help you live a positive, fulfilling life while giving in to narcissistic tendencies will make life more challenging for yourself and others.